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How to choose the perfect funeral outfit

Posted by AK Lander | On September 25, 2015 14:23

Among the most important things to consider is the funeral outfit you should wear, as keeping a level of respect and decency is imperative.

A funeral is something that no one
fully prepares for, especially as there are so many things to consider to ensure the recently departed gets the send-off they deserve.

On top of choosing a memorial gravestone, another important thing for mourners to keep in mind is the type of funeral outfit you should wear as dressing respectfully is vitally important.

If you are worried about what you should or shouldn’t wear to a funeral, read the following tips to help you choose what to wear.


The suit

Andy Gilchrist, owner of the Ask Andy About Clothes site, says, “Attending a funeral is not about you, or the place to make a fashion statement, but a solemn occasion showing respect to the deceased and their family. That’s a situation that normally requires you wear a suit and necktie.

“Black is often what comes to mind when we think of attending a funeral. But most men do not have black suits since they are not acceptable daytime wear for most businesses.

“Navy or charcoal are perfect choices.”

Shirt and Tie

Although there are cases where the deceased’s family ask mourners to turn up with colour shirts and ties, most funeral’s follow the traditional rules and it is therefore important to choose a shirt and tie that fits in with the rest of your suit.

Andy Gilchrist, adds, “Pair your best navy or charcoal suit with a white or light blue shirt and subdued necktie. I normally recommend a pocket square but you may want to omit it at a funeral, although a white square discreetly folded would be acceptable.”

The shoes

Mr Gilchrist believes choosing the right shoes to wear with your suit is vitally important as it coordinates it all together.

He says, “With a suit, oxford (lace up) shoes are essential. They coordinate with the dressiness of the suit and the occasion. Black shoes are the most conservative, but a dark cordovan or dark brown shoes would work equally as well.”



A black dress is the usual funeral outfit of choice, although it is very important to ensure it is neither too tight nor too short.

Not only would this be regarded as disrespectful, it could mean that you embarrass yourself while bending down or greeting guests.

The normal rule is that the dress should be knee-length or longer and ideally covering the shoulders. For those who would rather not wear a dress, a pair of smart trousers and a nice top will suffice.

For girls, the usual funeral attire is a ‘box’ style dress which flows straight down from the shoulders. It should be completely plain and be without decorative beading or sequins.


A woman’s shoes are a pivotal part of a funeral outfit and should generally be of a dark colour and the ladies toes should not be revealed.

There are plenty of options, but ladies’ shoes from Brantano sell some really suitable shoes for a funeral.

The Clarks Discovery Dime Ballerina Shoes, costing just £38, are one great option. The shoes simple black leather offers a versatile look while the flexible sole is enhanced with a flattering low heel and Cushion Soft foam layers.

Another shoe that is ideal for a funeral is the Emilio Luca X Red Monk Brogues, which cost £28. The stylish monk shoe with a tailored finish has an adjustable buckle fastening for added comfort.

The Clarks Carousel Trick Brogues at £42 are an affordable and sensible shoe to wear to a funeral.

The black leather lace up shoe has a subtle on-trend brogue detail and padded sock for comfort to complete a smart casual look from Clarks.


A black leather bag is a sensible option as flashy and colourful bags can be seen as disrespectful to some mourners.

Being respectful

If there are no set rules and you are still unsure on what to wear, just envisage yourself going to church and the type of outfit you would choose. Avoid wearing sunglasses, wild prints, celebratory patterns or anything that is considered flashy; after all, you wouldn’t want to focus the attention on yourself at an event designed to be a celebration of the life of the deceased.

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